I’m going to try really hard to not be “that guy.” The one who floods your social media with pictures and stories about his brilliant newborn--- the baby who is either the absolute best at everything and WAY beyond her peers developmentally OR a real nightmare. There are no average babies anymore. They’re either perfect angels or little devils, with no in-between.
That said, Indie Jo IS brilliant and settling in nicely. I know this because I took the last week off from work, unplugged, and enjoyed my family. When an event like this happens in your life… when something major comes along and really flips things upside down, you have a couple of choices, really.
You can fight it, rail against the injustice of it all, moan about the upset to your schedule, or the serious inconvenience of the changes--- OR you can take a step back and really appreciate everything you have.
Ryan Holiday dissects the cycle of change into three parts: perception, action and will.
Perception is how you see things. I also read somewhere that there is no reality, only perception. Let’s relate that to fitness--- is how you are perceiving yourself and your situation honest? Are you using touch points and measurements or do you still see yourself as you were a few years ago--- before you got too busy to exercise? The control here is to really evaluate yourself based on some non-opinion related assessments--- like your physician, or the scales, or even trying one of your old work-outs. Are you as good as you used to be?
Holiday explains action as what you do as a result of your perception. If you perceive you are being treated unfairly, for example, you may get angry and loudly express your dissatisfaction. Perception leads to action AND dictates the direction that action takes. If you, believe yourself to be in good physical shape, you may run in a marathon. If you perceive yourself to be in poor physical health, you may struggle with the idea of walking to the bus stop. Your perception of where you are determines the route you take to reach your goals.
Finally, there’s will. Will allows us to accept where we are and recognize that there are some battles that cannot be won. Will is the factor that determines which things can be addressed and which must simply be accepted--- and pushes us to make changes where 1) its possible and 2) its important enough to us.
Which brings us back to appreciation. You really need to honestly assess where you are and be able to appreciate the value in THAT before you can affect positive change on your journey. Appreciating the things that are important to you, even if they don’t always seem that great (like when you wake up at 3am to change a nappy) will set you up for the best possible start when you actually commit to a change.