I speak to a lot of people. Often, I’m talking to them about their health and wellness and that conversation includes questions like “why haven’t you reached your fitness goals?” and “what kinds of things are standing in your way?”
Mostly, the obstacles people are facing can be boiled down to one thing. Seriously.
Not enough time?
Intimidated by going to a gym and being the *least* fit person there?
Not sure you can afford it?
It’s too hard?
You can’t wrap your brain around how much protein vs carbs vs fat you should be eating?
It’s too damn cold?
Afraid your trainer will be a drill sergeant?
I’ve heard all of these reasons--- and loads more. And every time someone uses them, I HEAR the same exact thing. I haven’t made up my mind to do it. If you want something, really want something, you get it. When you make up your mind to do something, and really commit to it, things that loomed as obstacles before suddenly are reframed as challenges. Things you need to think about overcoming, sure--- but things you know you WILL overcome--- because they stand between you and your uncompromising goal.
Instead of saying “I can’t do that because the wind is blowing and I’ll catch a chill…” you say, “how do I best avoid the chill and still do the thing I need to do to move me closer to my goal?” Basically, you flip a switch in your brain that turns impossibility into not only possibility, but probability.
People who drop gobs of weight don’t start losing it by saying they can’t do it because they aren’t terribly mobile. They start losing the weight by using what mobility they have to do more than they have been doing and making measurable strides toward an eventual outcome. Instead of being attached to their excuses, they decide to be attached to their vision--- their goal--- their possibility.
All it took was a change in their level of willingness to accept their own excuses anymore. All it took was a change in their perception of their situation, more urgency to reach a goal, more motivation.
The goal didn’t become less intimidating, their desired outcome didn’t change, the steps they needed to take to reach the goal didn’t evolve into something so much easier to tackle---